Loveologist’s Guide to First Time Sex

There is no hard and fast rule for first-time sex; the only thing that matters is how you feel. For first-timers, sex is often mixed with feelings of inhibition or nervousness. This is quite natural as either one or both the parties are inexperienced. Besides, there are other fears crossing your mind of making her pregnant or catching some infection/disease. To alleviate these anxieties, contraception and safe sex planning should be done in advance.


• As a matter of fact, safety counts first. Ensure that he wears a condom even if you are on a pill. This is because women have a higher chance of encountering sexually transmitted infection than men.

• Don’t begin your first encounter with great expectations. Sex generally improves with your knowledge of each other’s bodies.

• For first-timers, sex can often be nerve wracking. So make sure you breathe long and deep to relax your nerves.

• In the anxiety of sex, do not forget to enjoy the foreplay –talking, kissing, touching, oral sex- these are part of the sexual experience, and often more enjoyable than penetration.

• Don’t hesitate to convey your thoughts during the process. Let him know what turns you on or off without criticizing him. Guys love feedback, especially praise and compliments when they are doing something that feel good for you.

• Make sure you are completely aroused before intercourse. If not, you will experience discomfort on account of the intensity of friction.

• Don’t assume that he knows what you want. Direct him as to what makes you feel good. He might have gathered lots of information by watching porn, or hearing stories from his buddies. But he is equally anxious to please you as you are about getting him off.

• Guys often fear of having an orgasm too soon. This is quite normal for first-timers. In case this happens too soon, just focus on satisfying your partner and give a try again. The second attempt will surely be much better. Women take longer to reach climax so relax, be patient and give her the time to build her excitement.

• Out of sheer nervous excitement, penis malfunction, in the form of premature ejaculation and erectile difficulty, is one the most common problems faced by guys. This is no big issue that can be resolved with sex education and love coaching. Check out the courses at Loveology University on Foreplay, Love, Kissing, Intimacy and Female Sexuality to help guide you to become a great lover.


So prepare yourself for that intimate moment with your partner. Remember that being a good lover doesn’t happen automatically. It takes the right partner, friendship, love, respect, trust, intimacy and practice – these are the major ingredients that make a good lover. With the above-mentioned tips for first time sex, you will surely overcome your initial fears and inhibitions that get in your way of lovemaking for the first time.

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Suzanne Macguire is an expert writer with keen interest in human psychology, love, and relationship. Her recent articles cover a lot of information on love guru or the love experts.